Home Forums Vaginismus Support Group Daily Questions About Vaginismus I feel so alien even amongst women with vaginismus. Reply To: I feel so alien even amongst women with vaginismus.


Hi LonelyTears – welcome to the forum! What everyone has said above is totally true. You’re super brave for sharing your story and there is so much help out there to be gained. Sharing your feelings is the first step to seeking a solution, and the first step is often the hardest.

It’s super natural, when sex is associated with pain and discomfort, to develop a revulsion toward it. As alien as you feel, there are a lot of women who have felt this way before and overcome that sensation by finding the right kind of help. I believe this is possible for you and also that there is so much mental healing you can do for your own sake if you do seek treatment. I hope you’ll find a sex therapist or regular talk therapist to help you through this because you deserve to be happy and not live in fear.

Let us know if you have any questions – there is so much knowledge to be shared here along the way!