Thank you so much Heather for very detailed info. I will try the tip of using dilator before doctor’s appointment. I think it will take a long time for me to be able to insert dilator. Currently even a 1 cm diameter preseed applicator does not go in.

I also see in your links that your did at home IUI type thing. Would this work for low morphology and motility? Was your husband’s semen analysis normal?

Quote from Heather34 on November 28, 2015, 08:52
Hi Arshee. I definitely agree with Melissa’s thoughts here as well. I am so sorry for what you are currently going through.

You wrote: “It takes over an hour for me to get aroused sufficiently, hence sometimes I get tired of the foreplay and we insert it say after 30 mins of foreplay then it causes burning and pain.”

I think working with vaginal dilators here could really, really help. I have used both the Pure Romance ones as well as Pacik Glass ones and love them both. In an earlier post that I wrote this morning, there is a detailed description of each: http://www.vaginismusmd.com/support/vaginismus-md-forum/?mingleforumaction=viewtopic&t=1077.0#postid-5734

Another idea is to use a vibrator prior to intercourse. I have used the Lelo Liv and highly recommend it. http://www.vaginismusmd.com/aidsproducts/vibrators/lelo-liv-vibrating-dilator/

You wrote: “I got HSG done and had extreme burning sensation when speculum was inserted, any slight movement during to procedure was further tightening up my vaginal walls.”

I despised the speculum while having vaginismus and an exam was impossible due to the excruciating pain/resistance. There is a great thread that I wanted to share with you concerning our thoughts on the Speculum: http://www.vaginismusmd.com/support/vaginismus-md-forum/?mingleforumaction=viewtopic&t=255.1 One thing that helped me so much following my procedure with Dr. Pacik was to actually wear the vaginal dilator to my ob/gyn appointment and remove it prior to having the speculum inserted. In doing this, I was stretched so well that it did not hurt at all having it inserted and removed.

I also would definitely contact Melissa at Maze and work with them in any possible way. I know they are offering an out-of-town option to treat vaginismus. My husband and I tried for several years to become pregnant but were not able to until this past May. I alternated using the syringe method along with having sex during the dates I was ovulating. http://www.vaginismusmd.com/support/vaginismus-md-forum/?mingleforumaction=viewtopic&t=1046

Please know that I am here to support you every step of the way. Sending you huge hugs!!!