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Dr. Pacik

“If you press me to say why I loved him, I can say no more than because he was he, and I was I.”
~ Michel de Montaigne

It’s not often that we ponder precisely what we find sexually attractive in another. Usually, human beings are stirred by that mysterious force we call “chemistry” when it comes to sex and love. And yet, learning what characteristics make up sexual attraction for us is a necessary part of adult sexuality, albeit one we find challenging. Think about what attracts you to another person, whether a friend, lover, teacher, dentist, or medical doctor. We have to feel some sense of attraction in order to trust those around us. What qualities of attraction move you toward someone?

Attraction is a law of nature that makes entire processes and systems come together to birth something new. What attributes do you possess that you think others find attractive–your intelligence, sense of humor, physical appearance, or something else? When you’re open and feeling attractive, you’ll attract what and whom you need in your life in order to birth something in you. Whether that something is literally a child or the creation of a new business, the inspiration for a work of art, or to be the best you can be, something new and beautiful will be birthed when you’re in a state of attraction.

• Take time today to write about what you find attractive in a partner and what you find attractive in yourself.
• Make a commitment to yourself to change your unattractive qualities in order to deepen your self-esteem and to attract the kind of partner or energy you’d like to have in your life.
from the MIRROR OF INTIMACY book
The Daily Meditation Book by Alexandra Katehakis and Tom Bliss