Reply To: Anyone else alone in this cause of a strict Catholic family who are against sex?

[recessivegenequeen]

Hi Lulu1802, I’m so sorry to hear about all the pain you’ve been through! First of all, I want to say that the issues you’ve had with STDs and yeast infections are not because you are a bad person – everyone’s bodies are different and some women just have extra sensitive vaginal chemistry that makes them more prone to these types of infections. It would probably be worth seeing a gynecologist just to discuss the variety of issues you’ve had and see if there are methods of treatment available.

I wasn’t raised catholic, but I WAS brought up in a household where sex was strongly discouraged and I believe it definitely contributed to my vaginismus because it added further stress and doubt to sexual situations that might not have been there otherwise. Vaginismus can form for all kinds of reasons – it’s also common among anxious people who happen to carry their tension in their vaginas – and knowing these factors are at play can help you to understand what you need to work on to achieve a healthier sex life.

I think your first steps should be to meet with a gynecologist to see if they can shed any light on your tendency toward infections/UTIs and also perhaps consider dilating if you aren’t doing that already. Remember that this is about YOUR body and it isn’t your family’s business. This is a hard thing for us to assert as we grow up but you’re becoming an adult and will need to draw these boundaries in future more and more. i hope this helps and that you get relief soon!