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Hi yellowmoon – how long do you have to be interacting sexually for this pain to affect your husband? It’s possible it could be epididymal hypertension (EH), a condition that can affect people with male genitals where they experience pain and aching in the testicles after having an erection without an orgasm. In America we colloquially call this “blue balls.”

If this is happening really quickly, it might be something different. Does he keep his erection even during this pain? It could be something like priapism in that case. Or he could even have some issue that affects how blood flows to his penis that causes pain.

I am not fully sure what your religion allows and prohibits, but you might try to give your husband an orgasm even with your hand or your mouth to see if that affects his pain. That could help you better understand what is happening so you can address your vaginismus and move toward having intercourse.