Hi imapartner! I can tell this subject is making you anxious. My husband had issues just a couple times, and he had never had PIV before. I think the main issue was, before sex I would have to dilate and we had to be careful and it wasn’t very passionate or ‘hot’ haha and I think he was just really worried that he was going to hurt me. Communication will help you both tremendously! Once you both are able to have PIV together, it is so important that you are learning how to help her, what positions work best, what she likes and doesn’t like. It’s definitely a learning experience. It took my husband and I a few months to find our rythm. If you’re getting and maintaining erections through other forms of play, I think you’ll be okay!