Curious, it can definitely be possible for women to tear their own hymens, but if you have a particularly thick or rigid hymen, it can be trickier to do that yourself. There are surgeries to tear your hymen if you cannot do it yourself, but you might also want to take into consideration how bad your pain is and whether you want to handle it yourself or if that might be too difficult for you. I do not personally know how to do this but know that thick hymens have been discussed elsewhere on the forums and that there is information online about how to tear your hymen if you look. It just depends what your priorities are and how you want to go about it!