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Thanks so much for sharing this, juliefrance! Until you posted this article excerpt, I hadn’t thought about the fact that we often use the word “normal” to mean two very different things – “a thing that happens to lots of people” and “a thing that is natural and supposed to happen.” Vaginismus is very much the former and NOT the latter, but I think because women hear so much about pain during sex being “normal” (as in a thing that happens to lots of women), they assume it is also NATURAL and a necessary part of the experience. Part of what our educatuon around vaginismus needs to do is untangle the fact that this happens all too often from the assumption that it’s just how things are and that there’s nothing we can do about it.