Thank you so much for your post.
I think it is so important that we continue to hear from partners and get their perspective.
I agree painful penetration is not always vaginismus. And hymenal anatomy for many women can be a big reason for initial penetration pain. I do find that a lot of my patients who develop vaginismus…aslo have very thick, high hymens, that are not easily broken.
I do encourage women who are experiencing that impenetrable vaginal entrance, to get evaluated for thick intact hymen.
A hymenectomy procedure can be very helpful.
I wonder sometimes if that thick hymen starts a viscous cycle of pain, fear response…and the cycle just continues to get worse, the more pain and fear develop.
Vaginismus is then created from the fear, which makes the muscles surrounding the vaginal entrance spasm and tighten, which makes penetration even more impossible.