Hi redrose! When I began dilating, I did so in front of my husband. His presence made me feel more safe and comfortable. I actually had the opposite feelings, I was scared to do it alone. But everyone is different! I love your ritual though!! I loved to incorporate heat during my excersize, it was very comforting. I’ve seen you post here on the forum before, how is your journey with vaginismus going? I apologize ahead of time if I’ve seen or missed some of your posts, already. How is dilating going?