Congrats on your success, littlebear! And I completely agree with Jennifer – I don’t think what you did was immoral. Your friend fully understood the circumstances and your priorities and he consented, as did you – and it sounds like it was a great experience! Not everyone’s treatment path will be the same and women who are unpartnered have just as valid reasons for seeking treatment for vaginismus. Good for you for finding a solution that worked!
Also, as a point of interest, we just had a male sex worker who helps vaginismus patients overcome that final hurdle make a post on the forums – it’s a really interesting potential alternative to what you did, littlebear, in the case you don’t have an understanding friend at the ready. You can read more about what he does and how it works here: