Congrats on getting to the third dilator, diercl48! You have had a ton on your plate but it’s great that you’ve still been able to find the strength to keep going. And try not to feel bad about just having 10 minutes to devote emotionally – consistency and focus make all the difference, and 10 minutes is still 10 minutes! I think it’s great that you want to put this behind you – it can give you back so much confidence and help banish the shame vaginismus seems to encourage, and that on its own is a good reason to deal with the issue. Then when you meet the right person or want to have intercourse with someone, you can deal with it on YOUR terms at YOUR comfort level. Give yourself grace and recognize how much power you’ve already shown – you are doing amazing work!