You’ve already heard from the amazing and very knowledgable women above, but I want to join in them acknowledging your story and celebrating your strength and resilience! Leave no stone unturned as you search for proper diagnosis and treatment and have faith you will. Don’t be deterred by ignorant care providers – the literature (and all the success stories of our own patients) proves vaginismus is a highly treatable condition.
Take your time and go at your own pace if you choose to go with dilators. Use lots of self-compassion, be patient with yourself and remember it’s about progression, not perfection. All best to you!