Hey Richelle! I’m so sorry you experienced that! If you can get a finger in, that’s great! The pain you experienced may just be because it was your first attempt and your vagina has not stretched to the size of a penis yet. But like Jennifer said, it is hard to know after 1 experience. But I second what Melissa said about dilation and attempting penetration with something smaller than a penis. You could even try a range of vibrators varying in size if that’s what you prefer! And lube!! Lube just makes sure that everything is adequately wet and friction free! Maybe you just need a little dilation for a short period of time, 20 minutes a day for a few weeks or so, to prepare your body for sex. If you find that it is too painful, I’d give your doctor a call. Good luck!!