Hi Blueberry88 – has your pain subsided? Heather’s advice was spot-on! I agree that you shouldn’t try to rush into intercourse if it’s still acutely painful – after all, vaginismus is predicated partly on a negative relationship in your mind and body between pain and sex, so you don’t want to further compound that association! I’d have a doctor look especially if you’re still having that pain. Let us know how things are going and I hope it’s improved since you last posted!