Hello and welcome to the forum! Are you using a silicone based lube with your silicone dilator? This will eat up your dilator! It may also be drying up your lube quickly. The right lube was key for me when I was dilating. It’s good to find a lube that lasts a long time so it doesn’t dry up on you too quickly and cause the dilator to be difficult to pull out! Been there, done that, and I feel your pain! I think playing around with lubes could help you a lot! Let us know how you make out! I hope this helps!!