gls1114 – congrats on being able to have intercourse without pain! I know the phase you’re at can be annoying as you want to move all the way along into having spontaneous sex and feeling normal, but as Jennifer said, this is a part of the longer process as much as many of the other phases are.
To Jennifer’s advice I might add that if you don’t live with your boyfriend, you could dilate before going to where he lives or before he comes over so that even if it isn’t happening RIGHT before, you’re generally warmed up and ready for that day’s sexual activities. You also might start noticing the acts and foreplay that most arouse you and try to do as much of those as possible before attempting intercourse if you haven’t dilated before.
Let us know how it goes and if you have other questions – you’ve already made a huge amount of progress and should be very proud!