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mmHelen Leff, LCSW

Hi MotivatedMumm,
Good for you! Regarding what happens next (great question!) it’s probably a good idea to purchase a dilator that is a bit larger than your husband’s penis to work with prior to attempting intercourse. Sometimes the largest dilator in a kit just isn’t large enough. If you can dilate just a bit larger than his penis it will give you the confidence that intercourse will be pain free. Keep in mind that a penis is “real” and more pliable than a dilator! Also, dilate right before intercourse to insure that the muscles are comfortably stretched to accommodate his penis. Also keep in mind that first intercourse may feel somewhat mechanical and awkward. That’s okay! Maintain a sense of humor. It will get better.
Take good care and stay in touch,