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Your story is one that we have heard at Maze many times, you are not alone, there is hope and treatment is available.
Your anxiety about penetration is one of the key signs of vaginismus. The fear and phobia about vaginal penetration is holding you back from intimacy, and the continued disappointments of failed intercourse attempts continue to compound the situation.
I would encourage you to seek out a counselor for your anxiety as a start. Someone you can see regularly to help with the anxiety. Anxiety medication might also be very helpful.
If you feel like you can start a home dilation program, I would purchase a dilator kit and see if you can make any progress with vaginal penetration on your own.
Seeking out a pelvic floor physical therapist can also be a great option.
And for sure, you should consider coming to Maze. You sound like you would be a great candidate for our botox procedure, or possibly our new virtual dilation coaching program.