It happened again today! A prospective patient called the center to make an appointment because she could not manage to have vaginal penetration. She felt that all she needed was a therapist because she had already been seen by her OB/GYN who said “everything was fine.” She was insistent that she did not need a …
Continue ReadingEmotionally Focused Therapy.
Often when we see a woman for treatment at the Center, we find that part of what she may be struggling with is her relationship. When that is a part of what is going on we may refer the patient for couples therapy. This is partly why our treatment is so effective. We can increase …
Continue ReadingAttachment theory.
Attachment theory is the best way to understand love and romantic relationships. “Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950′s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: Anxious — people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partners ability to …
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In my practice at the Medical Center for Female Sexuality we refer many patients for psychotherapy. With female sexual dysfunction, women frequently get told that their problems are all in their head, that they are crazy or that whatever they are facing is not a big deal. We hate hearing that they have been told …
Continue ReadingHappiness.
In the field of therapy one of the common goals is to alleviate suffering and work towards increased happiness. Happiness in and of itself requires further definition. Those in the field of positive psychology define it in 3 ways, ” we work under the assumption that happiness is a scientifically unwieldy term and that its …
Continue ReadingMass erotic choice as a social organizer — from “Beatlemania” to “Fifty Shades of Grey.”
The questions never change. Working as a sex therapist, I have more than a passing interest in what the culture happens to be serving up about eros. Part of it is simply curiosity about what my clients are reading. But the greater part involves a search for conceptual tools with which to understand the erotic …
Continue ReadingWhy I’m not as crazy as I thought.
The following is a blog entry written by a patient at MCFS. Later this week we will post another entry by the same patient, reporting on her progress. This was written in October 2009. For about 14 years now I have been told constantly that things are in my head. Stomach cramps — must be stress, acne — must …
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