Just want to cuddle?

I was a little perplexed by this recent article in the Wall Street Journal. It seems that a cuddle deficit is sweeping the nation and thus cuddle centers are opening nationwide. I certainly understand both the need and the power of contact. I have seen all the research on the power of touch and the …

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Marriage and happiness.

I recently read an interesting article in the New York Times by Claire Cain Miller called, “Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married” published on January 8, 2015. The study found that marriage can provide more happiness for couples particularly during mid-life because it is a very stressful times due to the demands …

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Sex addiction.

We typically do not treat sexual addiction. However it is an issue that I have seen often in my work as a couples therapist. When an individual or spouse is struggling with sexual addiction and trying to understand what is happening I often suggest the book Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes. It can …

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Let’s talk about sex.

I treat many women with different issues from low desire to painful intercourse. One issue that women seem to struggle a great deal with is feeling insecure or inadequate. This can have a profound impact on one’s sexuality because instead of feeling confident and positive, when these things surface it often shuts a woman down. …

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The secret female hormone — Part 2.

In the book, The Secret Female Hormone, the author Dr. Maupin, also addresses the fact that testosterone may only be a part of the puzzle. She writes, “Relationships take work; they don’t just happen. Intimacy is much more than just lust or magical thinking. It may start with infatuation but that does not last. When …

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The Secret Female Hormone — Part 1

For anyone interested in the hormonal treatment of low desire I highly recommend the book, “The Secret Female Hormone: How testosterone Can Change Your Life”, By Kathy Maupin. At the Center we have been treating low desire with hormones for nearly 15 years. We have seen how effective it can be to replace testosterone, when …

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Coping with an affair.

Unfortunately, I  often hear about affairs in my work as a couples therapist. It is a difficult situation for both parties to cope with and the healing process is not easy. The first part is identifying what constitutes an affair.  In an article called, “The State of Extramarital Affairs” a couples therapist, Karen Rushkin, states …

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Pink ribbon blues.

An important article recently came out in Anthropology magazine about the after effects of breast cancer on a woman’s sexuality. The article is about one woman’s research with breast cancer survivors in Spain. Many of the women report feeling an enormous  impact on their sexuality after undergoing cancer treatment. A theme that kept coming up …

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Eye contact matters.

I think you can feel seen and known and loved when someone really looks you in the eye. A recent article in the New York Times titled, “Pssst. Look Over Here” by Kate Murphy, explores the importance of eye contact. “Only actual eye contact fully activates those parts of the brain that allow us to …

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How to love, and books that can help.

In my last blog entry, I talked about a hypothetical college course teaching young adults how to love. The more I think about this idea the more vital I think it is. Because so many marriages end in divorce wouldn’t it be helpful if young people had more education and guidance around such an important …

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