Here’s an interesting secret. Women often find what their partners do professionally sexy. Or even more commonly, women find their partner, doing their work, in their place of business, sexy.
I hear it all the time. “I saw him there, all sweaty under the car and…,” or “I walked in and he was meeting with some other suits, his sleeves were rolled up and he was animated and I could have..,” or ” I saw him working on a patient, and it was such a turn on.” And this was from someone dating a dentist. A dentist!! So I am trying to figure out what this is all about.
I think women get turned on by competence. So when they see their husband or partner in control, in charge, there is something uniquely sexy about that.
I also think that when we see our partners in a new or different environment, it makes us take another fresh look at them. This is not the same guy we fight with about the dishes, or see changing the diapers. This is a new and exciting side of our partner. And that can have its own erotic charge.
My advice? Use it. Consider role playing, or even better show up at his work place some time. I’m assuming you can take it from there.