Call me a nerd but I am fascinated by statistics of internet searches on porn sites. I feel like ever since I read A Billion Wicked Thoughts, I am very sensitive to the fact that the only way to gather accurate data about who really likes what, who is really looking for what and what our habits are around …
Continue ReadingIs Porn Really the Way You Want Your Kids to Find Out About Sex?
Someone smart once said to me that “learning about sex from porn is pretty much the same as learning to drive by watching The Fast and The Furious.” There just isn’t that much overlap between real sex between real people and porn. Although, to be honest, more real people are posting their own porn and …
Continue ReadingGetting Off On TV
For some of my female patients, just hearing me say the word “porn” makes them cringe, look away and change the subject. At this point, I feel like I have lost them into an abyss of discomfort and the conversation about watching anything to get turned on hits a wall. So I thought, what about …
Continue ReadingStephen Snyder, M.D. joins MCFS blogroll.
Thanks to the Medical Center for Female Sexuality for inviting me to join in as a guest blogger. I’m excited to be sharing this page with the talented group at the Center for Female Sexuality. By way of introduction — I’m an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at Mount Sinai School of Medicine and practice …
Continue ReadingWhat’s the deal with Porn?
Here’s a review of studies which suggests that the data show that the more porn is used, the fewer sex crimes are committed. It’s an interesting argument and worth looking at!
Continue ReadingDo women hate porn????
A recent post to another blog responded to the question “Why women hate porn” and listed a number of reasons why some women may dislike pornography. This is understandable on some level since a lot of porn suggests things that do not or cannot happen in real life. For example, how am I, a woman, …
Continue ReadingOn reading erotica (okay, so it’s porn).
Often I will recommend to my women patients with low desire (in addition to other medical stuff we’re working on- and as they start feeling less resistant) that it is good to learn to get yourself turned on. And if you can get into the habit of getting yourself turned on a couple of times …
Continue Reading“The Porn Trap” — trap.
Okay, now I finished the book so I feel qualified to give it bona fide “thumbs down.” Maybe if the title of the book had been “A book about why we hate porn, why all porn in all situations is bad and why we think it is the root of anything bad in a relationship,” …
Continue ReadingTelling other people what to do…
I just started a new book, The Porn Trap. It’s making me really pissed off. Basically it starts out by saying that porn is addictive and harmful, just like drugs and alchohol. Keep away from it. It’s bad for you. I haven’t read the whole book yet and I don’t like passing judgement on things I …
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