They say that if a man lives long enough he will ultimately die from prostate cancer. On a similar note, in my world, if a workshop goes on long enough somebody will inevitably ask about semen. Well here it is folks, your comprehensive guide to semen in 500 words or less. First off, semen is …
Continue ReadingTiger Woods and sex…
It was only a matter of time before Tiger ended up in rehab for “sex addiction.” I’ve been predicting this scenario publicly since November. It appears that Tiger is now at Pine Grove Behavioral Health and Addiction Services in Mississippi, not South Africa as originally reported. I would like to dispel a common myth among …
Continue ReadingYet another reason for women to be fit…
Overweight women should know that your oral contraceptive may take longer to become effective. A new study recently published in the Journal of Contraception found that oral contraceptives for woman who are overweight can take twice as long to become effective. Most drug tests are not tested on people who are obese and so body …
Continue ReadingDr. Neil’s radio show…
I haven’t posted in awhile however the good news is that we launched our radio show. The Sex & Intimacy show is edgy, fun and informative. No question is off limits and no topic is taboo. Listeners from around the world can tune in and or call in with questions every Thursday at Midnight EST. …
Continue ReadingIf all roads lead to Rome, in sex therapy all roads lead to shame…
Guilt is feeling bad for what we did, i.e., “I had unprotected sex.” Shame is feeling bad for who we are, i.e., “I’m a slut.” Shame is that inner voice that says, “I’m not good enough.” For many people shame becomes the core belief of who we are and eats away at the deepest part …
Continue ReadingThe big O…
We get many of our notions about how sex “should” be from the media. Remember the movie “When Harry Met Sally?” Actress, Meg Ryan, simulated an earth shattering orgasm if there ever was one. In sports we are goal oriented. In school we want our kids to get “A’s”. But sex isn’t a contest and …
Continue ReadingWhen sexual secrets are okay…
One mistake I see women make in therapy is to repeatedly tell their partner how much they hate their body. When we tell our partner that we hate the way our body looks we are using the power of suggestion to implant negative thoughts. If you hate the way your boobs look, and say it …
Continue ReadingGreen is sexy…
Do you recycle? Well now you can recycle your used dildos and vibrators and get paid $10. The next time you have an old sex toy simply send it to the sex toy recycling program and they will give you a $10 gift certificate from the sex toy retailer, Dreamscapes, (Yes, you need to clean …
Continue ReadingSexy New Year’s resolutions…
When it comes to New Year’s resolutions we often resolve to lose weight, quit smoking and make more money. Those are all good, but how about a resolution for better sex? Here are three ways to improve your sex life and you can start today. Make your relationship a priority. It’s easy to forget about …
Continue ReadingSexy holiday traditions…
If you don’t already have a sexy holiday tradition now is a great time to start. I have one male client who likes nothing more than to see his wife topless so every year on Christmas Eve she comes to bed wearing nothing but the bottom half of a holiday costume. One year it was …
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