Dating with cancer.

I recently read an article about dating that I really loved. I talk to many of our patients about dating and I have lots of thoughts and opinions on it all but what this author said is a beautiful message that I fully support. She talks about dating while she had breast cancer. She writes …

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Slow sex in Manhattan.

The cultivation of sexual mindfulness. One rainy Friday afternoon in mid-summer, I traveled uptown to speak with Nicole Daedone, a former professor of semantics who now devotes herself full-time to teaching what must be one of the world’s most curious mindfulness techniques. At Daedone’s OneTaste Urban Retreat Center in San Francisco, and at workshops she …

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Being unavailable: The burden of vaginismus.

Like other types of sexual dysfunction, vaginismus can be like an ugly octopus that has multiple legs extending into various areas of a woman’s life. The effects can be pervasive and show up in her confidence, in her relationships, in her body image, in her sexuality, and her overall sense of well-being. Many patients have …

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How to talk about herpes.

I have worked with many patients over the years who have herpes. It can be very difficult for them to figure out how to cope with it themselves and then how to communicate it with others without feeling shame and sadness. I recently had a patient send me this article. I think my patient found …

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Wireless relationships.

There’s information you can get from reading history books and then there’s the wisdom you can get from the people who have actually lived it. Dr. Shirley Zussman is 100 years old and has been counseling people for over half a century. She has witnessed tremendous shifts in cultural attitudes around sex and relationships and …

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Talking to kids about sex: really?

I loved this blog post! I think it illustrates yet again the pitfalls around talking to kids about sex. Too little information? Not great. Too much information? Also not great. But when push comes to shove, I’d err towards too much information. And this interaction illustrates it beautifully. When there’s too much information, or when …

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